Frequently Asked Questions

This edition of Project Legacy: Let Me Tell You About My Child was written specifically for parents whose child has died, regardless of the child’s age or cause of death.

Yes. The book is not organized as a year-by-year record. Its prompts focus on your child as a person — their personality, relationships, favorite things, traditions, stories, photographs, milestones, the things they cared about, and the memories you want to preserve.

That allows a parent to tell the story of a baby, a young child, a teenager, or an adult child in a way that reflects the life they lived.

Not in the traditional sense. Project Legacy is a guided memory and legacy book. Grief is part of the reason the book exists, but the focus is your child’s life — who they were, what mattered to them, the people they loved, and the stories you never want forgotten.

No. You can begin wherever you want. You might start with a photograph, a favorite story, an easy memory, or simply a page that speaks to you that day. You can skip pages, return to them later, or leave some unfinished.

This book belongs to you. There is no schedule for completing it.

Then you do not have to. Owning the book does not create an obligation to begin it. It can wait until a day when opening it feels right — whether that is soon, months from now, or much later.

Yes. If you are giving it to a bereaved parent, the gentlest approach is to offer it without an expectation that they begin using it right away. A simple message such as, “I saw this and thought of you and of your child. There is no need to do anything with it until or unless it feels right,” gives the parent room to decide for themselves.

This edition is intentionally written from a parent’s perspective for a parent remembering their child. Some individual prompts may certainly resonate with other family members, but the book as a whole was created specifically for parents.

Use a Sharpie Ultra Fine Point permanent marker in the color of your choice on the Introducing line on the cover. Allow the ink to dry for at least one minute before handling the book.

Step-by-step placement guidance is also available on the Legacy Vault page.

The Legacy Vault is a small keepsake pocket created to stay with your Project Legacy book. It can hold meaningful pieces of your child’s story that cannot always be preserved on a written page — such as a hospital bracelet, lock of hair, small piece of jewelry, ticket stub, note, or another treasured keepsake.

Each Project Legacy book includes one complimentary Legacy Vault. Before requesting one through the website, please check the inside back cover of your book to make sure a Legacy Vault has not already been placed there.

If your copy did not come with one, you can request your complimentary Legacy Vault from the Legacy Vault page. Mailing is currently available within the United States only.

Your complimentary Legacy Vault will arrive with placement instructions and a Project Legacy ribbon bookmark created especially for the book.

Visit Support For Your Journey for child-loss support organizations, additional grief and mental-health resources, and immediate crisis-support information.

Yes. Project Legacy may be offered as an optional resource for bereaved parents, with the parent deciding whether, when, and how they want to use it. Professionals and organizations can visit the For Professionals page for review-copy and multiple-copy information.